Instead of looking for a great leader, we are in an era where each of us needs to find the great leader in ourselves. ~ Werner Erhard How often do you stop to think about great leadership qualities? You may think about it in terms of leaders you admire. But do you think about your own leadership qualities? I recently attended an excellent leadership course. It took us in a different direction when it comes to examining outstanding leadership qualities. Rather than talking about the doing of leadership, we spent two days inquiring about what it takes to be a leader.
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I’m Too Old to Change Careers
Modern man was not meant to do his best work before forty but is by nature, and is becoming more and more so, an afternoon and evening worker. ~ G. Stanley Hall If you’re thinking you are a tired old dog and it’s too late for you to change careers, I get it. I used to think that way too. Whether you choose to change careers or a career change chooses you due to a layoff or some other craziness going on in today’s roller coaster world, demo-ing your life and rebuilding it is never easy. You may wonder, like
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How Your Sexy Second Act Makes a Difference
Turning up our light in the presence of those whose light is dim becomes the difference that makes the difference. ~ Eric Allenbauth This isn’t what you think. It’s not an article about making a difference by running off and joining the Peace Corps or volunteering, or working at a non-profit. Those are great things to do if you are wired that way. But if you’re not, it won’t work. Instead of turning up your light, it will dim your light. How Do You Turn Up Your Light? Gaining clarity about what you love doing is what makes a difference
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Starting Over Doesn’t Feel Sexy – Start Over Anyway
“Hard is trying to rebuild yourself, piece by piece, with no instruction book, and no clue as to where all the important bits are supposed to go.” ― Nick Hornby Starting over, or starting anything new, is a lot like launching a rocket into space. Most of the energy is spent just getting off the ground. You have to pull yourself out of the gravitational force of doing things the way they’ve always been done. You have to leave the “solid ground” of what you know and be willing to launch yourself into uncharted and unexplored territory. Starting over may
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Listen with Your Heart to Design Your Sexy Second Act
“Let your heart be your compass, your mind your map, your soul your guide… and you will never get lost.” ~ Ritu Ghatourey It’s said that if you listen with your heart, you’ll hear a message in every experience. I pondered that the other day while waiting for my mechanic to figure out why my car’s check engine light came on. Luckily, it turned out to be no big deal, but I couldn’t help wondering what the message might be. I’ve been feeling pressure about completing my book by a certain deadline. As a result, the fun went out of my
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Your Purpose is Greater Aliveness!
Pain is the clarion of aliveness trumpeting that you are living in the marvelous tender cause of life! ~ Bryant McGill Do you ever wonder about what your purpose is? Does it give you a headache when you think about it? It used to be that way for me too. What if discovering your purpose isn’t as hard as you think. I love this quote from the teachings of Werner Erhard: “When you get rid of the blocks, what you have is aliveness, and when the blocks are gone, purpose emerges. There is no use searching externally for purpose, or
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Making Your Sexy Second Act Career Choice
Finding the work that you love is not complicated or difficult; there are no mysteries: it just requires clarity, choice and commitment. ~ Lance Secretan Making your Sexy Second Act career choice sounds simple, doesn’t it? And it is. But just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy. People sometimes come to me looking for instant answers about how to build a new career. But just like remodeling your house, a life or career remodel takes time. Designing and building anything is an act of creation. Can you think of anything beautiful, exciting or interesting that was built overnight? Your
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Remodeling Your Life After Divorce
One of the hardest things to do is figure out how to remodel your life after divorce. Life as you know it has been demolished. You lost a relationship, a way of life, and perhaps a “happily ever after” dream. You’re hurting and healing. Or maybe you haven’t even begun healing yet. Your self esteem may have taken a pretty big hit. You need time to get your feet under you and find your bearings. But there will come a time when you stop sorting through the rubble and destruction to determine what you are going to do next with
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Looking for a New Career? Think Like a 9-Year Old!
Man is most nearly himself when he achieves the seriousness of a child at play. ~ Heraclitus Looking for a new career can seem daunting. But what if it’s simpler than you realize? Maybe all it takes is thinking like a 9-year old. Consider Caine’s Arcade. His story can inspire anyone who is looking for a new career. You start by “playing” with what you love. When you do, something magical happens. Things start to evolve and take on a life of their own as people become inspired to step up and offer support. Everyone wants to play. We learn
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Think You Don’t Have Career Choices? Think Again!
Destiny is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: it is not to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. ~ William Jennings Bryan A common thread among people who come to me for coaching is they think they no longer have any career choices. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, the number of career choices available to you nowadays is only limited by your desire and your imagination. I get it if you don’t think that’s true. That was a tough sell for me when I left my corporate
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