Your quality of life is not based on standards such as time or ranking, but on finally awakening to an awareness of the fluidity within action itself. ~ Haruki Murakami ~ I learned a new word recently. I love when that happens. The word is “autotelism.” It’s defined as the belief that any action has meaning and purpose within itself and not apart from itself. Autotelism is when you sing because you like to sing. You are a vegetarian because you like being a vegetarian. You meditate because you enjoy meditating. You do it because it’s there to do. You
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How to Design Sexy New Beginnings When Other Beginnings End
Transitions Sometimes Mean Falling Back to Spring Forward
If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome. ~ Anne Bradstreet ~ I can’t help but smile at the complaining and grousing that goes on when Daylight Saving Time begins and ends. It offers a great example of how people react when they face a transition. People Don’t Like Transitions. Not Even Small Ones Big or small, transitions take you out of your comfort zone – at least temporarily. You see how people avoid dealing with transitions all the time, like those
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Be True to Your Core Values – It’s Sexy!
How do you know whether you’re serious about your values? You fight for them when they’re violated even if it costs you title, favor, friendship, and profit. ~ Assegid Habtewold ~ I’ve been reading articles about what’s been going on with Lands’ End. In case you haven’t heard about it, Lands’ End is the organization that featured Gloria Steinem in its catalog Legend Series. Shortly thereafter, it dropped her following a backlash from a certain conservative segment of its customer base. This post isn’t an indictment of Lands’ End. Instead, it offers an interesting insight into what happens when organizations, or
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How to Give Up Reinvention and Craft Your Career
The people’s life journey traverses from being child to being wild; the privilege is not in growing old but being able to hold the infant’s nature for as many days and as much as a person can in oneself.” ~ Anuj Somany ~ Reinvention is an “R” word that I’ve come to seriously dislike. I shudder every time I hear it. Call me picky, but to me, it sounds like there is something wrong with anything that supposedly needs “reinventing.” How do you “reinvent” something that already exists? It’s either invented or it’s not. As an example, how many times have
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Do You Ever Get Tired of Being Sick and Tired?
I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert ~ Have you ever experienced that moment when you have had it with your own B.S.? And with how your life is going – or not going? I have been there. It’s not fun when you hit that rock-bottom moment and you must finally acknowledge to yourself that you are sick and tired of pretending that you’ve got your life nailed. You know something has to change even though you aren’t sure exactly what, or exactly
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DISC Profiles are Excellent – But are they Enough?
The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently. ~ Pema Chodron ~ Information without Action is Entertainment Years ago, I took the DISC Profile Assessment as part of a leadership course offered through my former company. It was a valuable course, I learned a lot, and I thought the DISC Profile Assessment was helpful. I enjoyed the course. But, like many of us do after finishing a course, I returned to my job, filed
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